Janus is the Roman God of the New Year – he looks both backward and forward. It depends how you use the past as to how your future will be.
If you view the past as a terrible time and expect ore of the same then the probability is that you will get what you predict. If you use the past as a learning process and learn from past mistakes traumas and problems you will hopefully not make the same mistake and will make a new decision based on your experience.
You will look forward positively and optimistically. The more that you find success with your new positivity the more positive you will become.
Set yourself small goals at first and as you focus on succeeding you may well find that your confidence grows.
Failure is there to teach us to do things better – so if you “fail” learn from it and next time “fail better”.
Hypnotherapy and NLP combined helps you learn how to move beyond your limitations and begin to view Life in a more positive light – so the negative mindset which limits your growth – becomes a thing of the past.
You can be greater than you thought – each of us has innate skills that are unique to us. So let Janus be your portal into a great Life.
I am a Hypnotherapist and NLP practitioner in Ipswich Suffolk and I enjoy helping people reach their potential.
Happy New Year
Graham Howes Advanced Hypnotherapist and NLP Ipswich Suffolk
What Links The Beatles, Jimi Hendrix George Martin and a Hypnotherapist in Ipswich?
I have been watching a lot of TV shows about the Beatles which in turn caused me to seek out the many MP3 leaks of them working on so many of their great compositions. I also saw a programme on George Martin who was often called the “Fifth Beatle”.
So how does all that link to a Hypnotherapist in Ipswich?
When you hear The Beatles at work you realise that George Martin took all their creative challenges and made them happen. I listened to ObLiDi ObliDa as a Bossa Nova and realised that this would never have been as good as the ska inflected version of the final result! Penny Lane is far better for that Piccolo Trumpet vaguely mentioned by Paul McCartney as a “high trumpety thing” but realised and arranged by George Martin. The “strings from the Hitchcock Film” are understood by Martin to be the strings from Psycho as conceived by Bernard Herrman in the Shower scene and become the scherzo strings in Eleanor Rigby. George introduced The Beatles to many things like running music backwards and constantly took their creative challenges and arranged them and made them work and flawlessly produced them. George Martin was always the other part of that creative jigsaw and was partly responsible for all The Beatles best work.
He was also consulted when Jimi Hendrix went into the studio for the first time and complained that he could not get the guitar sound that he heard in his head. His Producer consulted George Martin who remembered a flangeing effect from the 1940s which distorted sounds in an interesting way. The mono effect was developed into a stereo effect in an interesting way and Hendrix’s trademark sound was born!
I am a Hypnotherapist based in Ipswich but also in Hadleigh Suffolk and Frinton on Sea and Colchester in Essex. I worked in Harley Street but I am also a Creative as I also have worked over many years as a Professional Actor Writer and Director and Drama and English Teacher. I have even appeared in Musicals professionally!
I worked with Creatives in Harley Street to help them move forward. I was struck how my role in helping people to face up to and overcome their challenges was like the role of George Martin: to be the best facilitator that I could be to help people move to the best resolution of their challenges that are possible in the circumstances. I am not saying that I have the great man’s experience and genius – but I can see how change happens when it is facilitated in the best way possible.
Graham Howes – Hypnotherapist and NLP Practitioner in Ipswich and Hadleigh Suffolk and Frinton on Sea and Colchester Essex
I am seeing many people, at my Hypnotherapy Practice, in Ipswich in Suffolk, for a lack of Confidence or Low Self Esteem and Social Phobia.
It is a rough tough world sometimes but we have all achieved success at some time in our Life and so it is better to dwell on your success than it is your failure.
Failure teaches us to do things better – or it should! When we buy into failure we are essentially buying into that lack of confidence rather than remembering that we are all unique individuals with something to contribute.
Whether in Business or Life Social Phobia, Lack of Self Esteem or Confidence can really hold us back and block our success in Life.
Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better. – Samuel Beckett
We should regard Failure as teaching us and success as empowering us
“If you fell down yesterday, stand up today.” ? H.G. Wells
The point about when it goes wrong is for us to learn and move on and try again.
I use Hypnotherapy and NLP to help people whether they are in Business, and have Presentations to make, or someone just trying to cope with Life. I help people get in touch with their successful times and put the failures into context as a valuable tool. And how to grow your confidence. Many people are like the swan – gliding along elegantly while paddling like hell underneath!
It is learning the right strategies that can definitely help. One client of mine was suicidal and had a raft of problems and now has a responsible high powered job with a multinational! Anything is possible.
Set yourself a realistic goal – when you achieve it your confidence grows in your ability to do, not only what you have to do, but what you want to do. You earn then learn how to be confident.
About Graham Howes:
I trained as a Drama Teacher and acted Professionally for 39 Years. I have written plays and directed them. I have worked in very high level Businesses in Sales and Sales Support. I trained Telemarketing Teams.
Graham Howes Advanced Hypnotherapist and NLP Practitioner
Weight Loss Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy in Ipswich Suffolk and Hadleigh Suffolk
Weight Loss Hypnotherapist in Ipswich and Hadleigh Suffolk
Weight Loss Hypnotherapy in Ipswich and Hadleigh Suffolk
I was a specialist weight loss hypnotherapist in Harley Street. Since then I have been using hypnosis and NLP for helping people lose weight with hypnotherapy in Ipswich and Hadleigh Suffolk and Colchester Essex.
How to Lose Weight With Hypnosis
Gaining Weight and How to Reverse Obesity
We keep hearing that we have an have an “obesity epidemic” in the UK. Some of this, as in the USA, is because of ready meals and junk food. In fact the American Health Authority calls it “junkie food” because they say that people become addicted to fat sugar and salt in high levels in the food which makes them feel good for all of half an hour!
Unfortunately this has a bad impact on the waistline. It can also lead to depression, cancer, osteoarthritis, type 2 diabetes, heart trouble and more! Your knees and back don’t thank you either because for every stone overweight it is as if you were wearing a rucksack filled with fat. You try carrying a rucksack wearing a rucksack weighing even one stone and you will see what I mean!
Losing weight with dieting
The problem is that the diet industry has always known that when you stop the diet you go back to your “normal eating” – and when you do the weight piles on again!
So we get the boom and bust of yoyo dieting.
Quite honestly dieting is boring!
Diets tend to be starvation or exclusion diets
You are asked to cut down on calories or maybe you are allowed sins (I find calling food sinful a psychological no no!) or you eat shakes or ready meals.
Some diet ready made foods contain ground duck feathers to bulk you out or a substance like wallpaper paste that mimics fat.
You may find that if they are low in fat or salt they are high in sugar or vice versa.
Starvation puts pressure on the liver and kidneys and your autonomic system makes you crave to eat more.
You might have strong short term goals – such as a wedding – and you override the siren call of your hypothalamus – the governor of your appetite.
You drink diet drinks which might contain aspartame which studies show makes you hungrier and actually may cause cancer.
You get bored with the shakes or ready meals.
You do the High Fibre Diet and get good at sprinting ..
You crash diet to beat the weigh in.
The moment you weaken you binge and put the weight back on.
Don’t eat fish on a wet Tuesday! Eat lots of fat. Cut out carbs. Take as much fat as possible out of your diet. Fast on designated days etc etc.
A nutritionist friend told me how harmful these diets can be as your poor digestive system liver and kidneys suddenly take on a huge load of one particular type of food and suddenly lacks another food group.
I suggested that I should bring in a Pineapple Diet – where you substitute fresh pineapple for one meal a day. I would talk of it’s miraculous digestive powers. I would say it was high in Bromelane a digestive enzyme. I would say it was full of fibre and bulked you out. I would tell you to watch your calories in other meals.
You might do it and lose weight … until you got bored with Pineapple and it would go the way of the Grapefruit Diet!
Perhaps I would sell it to you in pill form extolling the virtues of some obscure chemical and it’s ability to break down fat.
If all this worked wouldn’t the NHS prescribe it?
The problem is that we become calorie obsessed: “I lost / gained a pound today!” It is rumoured that some weight loss counsellors get bonuses for every pound lost – hence the obsession with pounds.
Frankly you can gain or lose a pound depending on what time of the day that you weigh. A pound is nothing. The overall aim is to lose weight steadily – and there will be peaks and troughs depending where you are in getting rid of fat – for instance.
If you are in a time where weight stands still or even goes up a little you get depressed and abandon the diet – it is “not working” – so you may as well comfort yourself with food.
Or maybe you feel it is all your fault?
Actually: You are fighting your body’s natural equilibrium.
Weight Management with Hypnosis
My approach is to help you manage your weight without calorie counting or any other gimmick. You learn how to use portion size control and eat a balance of food stuffs that meet your body’s needs.
We can also look at some foods that actually might be making you ill or lacking energy.
We can examine whether a low carb diet is the way forward or actually whether it depends on what carbs you eat .. Is there any foundation to the Paleo Diet?
Are Raspberry Ketone Pills a waste of money?
Is Dukane Diet all it is cracked up to be or is it more simply a matter of a balanced diet managed well?
Learn how to listen to your body and realise when you are full and stop eating?
You take some exercise which you enjoy
Most importantly you address why you overeat and stop tranquillising yourself with food!
Why you overeat:
“The boss / customer yelled at me so I reached for my secret Chocolate Drawer!”
We tranquillise ourselves with sweets or food and binge or comfort eat.
We could however use a strategy to address the stress and also lessen the possibilities of being yelled at by someone: prioritising is one great strategy instead of eating.
The problem is that you stress eat and it makes you “feel good” for about 15 minutes and then the stress still hasn’t gone.
A little stress is a good thing – a lot can prove fatal! It is now one of the biggest killers.
“I get anxious and eating a snack makes me feel better.”
I had a client that I regressed to find out if she unconsciously understood her addiction to jelly babies. She recalled a long repressed memory of being eight years old and her Mother sitting her in a sunny garden and saying: “Never mind darling – when you have a problem eat a jelly baby and all will be well.”
Her 25 stone self thanked her Mother for that well intentioned dietary nightmare but realised that she didn’t have to address her anxieties that way.
I taught her how to diminish the anxiety and address the source of the anxiety.
“I get bored in the evening and watch TV and reward myself after a hard day with beer and snacks.”
This is a huge danger area for some people and eating late means you never really get to digest properly so the body deposits it as fat to digest later. Of course you never get to digest it later.
Boredom is a craving for company or mental stimulus – so we need to find a strategy for that … one client started making bespoke cards .. another loved reading and joined a book club and made friends … another rediscovered Art … another took up running again and is now doing half marathons .. another wrote her village history.
We also need to suggest gently that eating or drinking too much alcohol is not the best default.
Depression or PTSD or Trauma:
“I find that bad thoughts can be addressed with eating or drinking.”
Actually the fix is only temporary and overeating or drinking too much alcohol can lead to you spiralling out of control. Your self image is perceived as bad which makes you more depressed.
If the Comfort or Binge Eating is related to past trauma – perhaps it is time to stop letting that event or events affect you. The event, abuse or PTSD, continues to affect you. A properly qualified Hypnotherapist with training in Psychological Abuse Trauma and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder CAN help you move forward and stop self medicating with food or alcohol.
You cannot change what happened but you can alter how you feel about it and put it behind you.
There are many reasons for weight issues
I work with you using my many years of experience to find solutions to overeating or drinking too much alcohol. We work in a holistic way through the issues – so whether it is PTSD, Depression, Anxiety, Stress, Boredom or anything else that causes you to tranquillise yourself with food we will find a strategy, explore nutritional alternatives, have some fun along the way, motivate you to lose weight and much more …
Hypno Gastric Band for Obesity in Ipswich and Hadleigh Suffolk and Colchester Essex
I was an early adopter of the virtual gastric band in 2010 and I now offer this in Ipswich and Hadleigh in Suffolk and Colchester Essex.
It works well and the course thoroughly explores, with Hypnotherapy Hypnoanalysis and NLP, all the reasons for your weight issues. Then we “fits” under hypnosis the HypnoGastricBand. Your unconscious or subconscious then makes you feel full sooner.
We work TOGETHER to deal with YOUR issues.
The Hypno Gastric Band is available now in Ipswich Suffolk. Hadleigh Suffolk on Sundays and Colchester Essex by special appointment.
I offer a FREE telephone consultation with no obligation
Call or Text Graham Howes: 0787 5720623 or Call: 01473 879561
How to move beyond Anxiety Stress Depression and Panic Attacks
I am seeing an awful lot of people at my clinics in Suffolk and Essex recently for Anxiety, Work Related Stress, Depression and Panic Attacks.
I suppose with the Financial Climate and the pressures on people this is unsurprising!
On it’s own Stress is now one of the big three killers in the World – and in the US workers, who have ended up with severs health issues because of stress, have even ended up suing the Companies that don’t practice Stress Management!
Many people don’t realise that there is an alternative approach for Depression Anxiety and Panic Attacks. Medication helps – but the question is whether you want that sort of support long term? My years of experience of working with Clients with Hypnotherapy and NLP have helped me evolve an approach that seems to work for most sufferers.
Stress, Anxiety and Panic Attacks are all based in the Fight or Flight response – this was useful when you faced a Sabre Tooth Tiger – but less usually useful these days! We probably don’t want to fight or run away from Nigel from Accounts because of an overspend! (Or maybe we do!)
We hate the feeling of adrenaline, the sweaty palms and raised heartbeat and we try to quell it – the unconscious part of you concerned with this thinks you haven’t noticed that help it just gave you – and dumps some more adrenaline into the bloodstream .. and you could soon be hyperventilating.
Simply put: you are headed in the wrong direction! I teach clients how to get the situation under control by a combination of proven techniques and strategies.
People who are depressed get into the mindset of: the light at the end of the tunnel is definitely a train coming in the opposite direction! We explore a number of different tried and tested approaches to help you get past depression.
You CAN get control of Depression Stress, Anxiety and Panic – talk to me for FREE to see how.
Hypnotherapy takes work with your therapist – so results can vary – it is not a substitute for Medical advice but complementary to it.
Please call me on 01473 879561 or text or call 07875720623 – leave your name number and time to call.
Graham Howes ASHPH GHR registered GHSC regulated Advanced Hypnotherapy and NLP
I became a Hypnotherapist while appearing in FAME in London’s West End back in 2001 specialising in Harley Street in Performer’s issues and when I moved to the Suffolk Essex border specialised in Weight Loss, Hypno Gastric Band and more..
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